Kathryn Schulz
the world's leading wrongologist
Author, Journalist, Public Speaker
Apropos of this time of year, when we tend to think about what we've done.
Good. Bad. Unfortunate.
You may agree (or not) with what Kathryn says. I like it.
"If we have goals and dreams and we want to do our best, and if we love people and we don’t want to hurt them or lose them, we should feel pain when things go wrong. The point isn’t to live without any regrets, the point is to not hate ourselves for having them… We need to learn to love the flawed, imperfect things that we create, and to forgive ourselves for creating them. Regret doesn’t remind us that we did badly — it reminds us that we know we can do better.”
She wrote Being Wrong, Adventures in the Margin of Error
the world's leading wrongologist
Author, Journalist, Public Speaker
Apropos of this time of year, when we tend to think about what we've done.
Good. Bad. Unfortunate.
You may agree (or not) with what Kathryn says. I like it.
I encourage you to watch the video to the very end, it's well worth it.
"If we have goals and dreams and we want to do our best, and if we love people and we don’t want to hurt them or lose them, we should feel pain when things go wrong. The point isn’t to live without any regrets, the point is to not hate ourselves for having them… We need to learn to love the flawed, imperfect things that we create, and to forgive ourselves for creating them. Regret doesn’t remind us that we did badly — it reminds us that we know we can do better.”
She wrote Being Wrong, Adventures in the Margin of Error
What do you think about regret?
good video. i think we learn not to regret, or hate ourselves, as we get older. nearing the age of 70, i no longer have any regrets and i like the person i have become. thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHow insightful. I always thought one should pride themselves in having no regrets but now...perhaps we all really do have them, it's how we deal with them, whether we dwell on them or not. So instead of saying I have no regrets, I think I will change it to : I do not dwell on regrets.
ReplyDeleteDeanna and Helen, I'm glad you found some nuggets of truth in her words. AND I'm glad you posted a comment!
ReplyDeleteI like what you said Helen..."I do not dwell on regrets".
regrets, i've had a few....i think somebody even sang that :>)
ReplyDeletei guess as long as we learn from the regrettables rather than wallowing in them we can remain hopeful?
As long as I know I'm not a sociopath...It's good to have regret, it's the human condition.
ReplyDeletei used to rail against 'no regrets' (what my dear one believed). i also think it essential to apologize (even if to oneself) for mistakes. and then move on with that baggage as knowledge, not as mental illnesses. tricky business.
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